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should you talk to people about your goals or notIn the past 19 days I’ve heard this question get talked about repeatedly by random people. It’s haunted me everywhere I’ve gone.

Some people have told me that I should talk to other people about my goals, while others have said that I absolutely should not.

But no one has been very convincing in telling me why I should do one or the other.

I’ve noticed that there’s a surprisingly large amount of dogma, blind following, and regurgitation of gurus’ opinions on the topic.

For example, yesterday a girl told me, “It’s a good thing to talk to other people about your goals — you should do it. Oprah said so last week!”, and maybe she’s right, but there’s not much analysis to back up the argument. I wasn’t exactly convinced by the girl.

The question remains:

Should you talk to other people about your goals, or should you not?

There are two different camps of psychology that both have a different answer to the question.

I’ll break down the reasoning behind both of these answers for you.

Why You SHOULDN’T Talk about Your Goals

The people who say that you shouldn’t talk to other people about your goals base their argument on the claim that:

  • If you talk about your goals/ideas/New Year’s resolution to other people you will feel good about yourself despite not having executed on it.

In other words, you’re prematurely rewarding yourself. You’re skipping right to the reward of having accomplished the deed without first putting in the hard work required to earn the right to feel good.

How does this work?

It works because your brain, or your subconscious mind as it is often referred to, doesn’t distinguish between real or imagined scenarios.

The same logic is used to explain why phenomena like visualization and mental rehearsal work.

Don’t believe me?

Take a five-minute timeout and think about fighting someone you hate. Think about punching your boss in the face. Think about taking down your worst enemy and stomping on his body repeatedly.

Envision this in great detail.

See how the blood spatters  from his face while you give that bastard what he’s got coming to him!

How do you feel now?

You suddenly feel energized and tense as a result of having flooded your system with adrenaline, just from thinking about it.

The reason for this is because the brain and body are bidirectionally connected. The things you do — or say — influence how you feel, and how you feel influences what you do as well.

It goes both ways.

So when you talk about your goals and ideas you’ll start feeling good about yourself, granted that these are things you’re passionate about.

You’ll feel like you’re already accomplishing these goals, even if you aren’t!

Why You SHOULD Talk about Your Goals

Conversely, there are reasons why it might be a good idea for you to talk about your goals.

There are the two main arguments:

  • 1. By talking about your goals you’ll force an extra repetition.

It is through repetition that we learn things — this happens by rewiring or strengthening the neural pathways in our brains. The more repetitions we do the more synaptic connections we build and the more reinforced they become as they become covered in myelin.

In my opinion, any extra repetition is a good repetition, because it strengthens that particular neural pathway and speeds up the learning process.

In this case the learning process is that of you seeing yourself as capable of accomplishing your goals — and believing in your own abilities. The more you believe in yourself the more you’ll increase the chance of your goals coming true.

The idea of faking it until you make it works by the same logic.

  • 2. By talking about your goals you’ll become accountable for accomplishing them.

If you keep talking about things you’re going to do people will start keeping tabs on you to see if you’re doing what you said you’d do. That is, unless you have shitty friends who want to see you fail.

Here’s the thing:

The mind seeks one thing above all else – integrity and orderliness.

What does this mean?

It means that if you present yourself in a certain way or say certain things people will form an image of who you are.

Once this image has been formed the brain will want to keep it congruent — it wants things to stay the same.  People will then unconsciously strive to keep you from changing. Not because they’re evil, but because the brain dislikes change.

This is the reason why a kid who’s being bullied in school for dressing awkwardly will get even more bullied if he suddenly decides to change his dress code and shows up to school dressed in cooler clothes.

The other kids will pick on him and say mean things about his clothes to make sure that he reverts back to how he was before.

There’s nothing inherently wrong with the new clothes, it’s just that the new image of how he’s trying to present himself is incongruent with mental image that the other kids have of him, and it makes them uncomfortable.

On the outside this looks like immature bullying — but on the inside is a mental battlefield of the brain striving to keep things congruent.

Reconciling the Two Approaches

So which approach is better?

None.

It’s completely individual.

The first approach, of not talking to other people about your goals,  has got many people confused. Mainly because they struggle with separating the cause and the effect behind what successful people do.

They see a successful person who doesn’t talk about his goals. Then they see a ton of losers who frequently talk about their goals and ideas without ever doing shit.

The losers sit around and talk about, “What could’ve been if only… If only they had the support of some influential mentor, if only they had the money to fund their idea…”, instead of just shutting the fuck up and focusing on how to execute.

People see this phenomenon happen over and over again. They quickly make the inference that, “Successful people don’t talk about their goals, only losers do!”.

But it’s not that simple — and thinking that leads to a false conclusion.

The reason that the losers are losers is not because they talk a lot about their goals.

The reason that the losers are losers is because they lack follow-through, discipline, and work ethic.

The reason that the losers are losers is because they are incompetent people who have a flawed understanding of how the world works, and blame their incompetence on external factors.

When the losers talk about their goals to feel good about themselves it probably adds to their incompetence. But it’s not the root cause for it.

The root cause of their incompetence lies somewhere in how they think and how they govern their daily routine.

How they sleep poorly.

How they eat poorly.

How they don’t exercise.

How their attention spans are short.

How they are insecure, scared, and self-defeating without having the tools to overcome these things…

And what is the result of these things?

— That they resort to taking the easy way out by  unconsciously rewarding themselves prematurely by talking about their goals instead of executing.

And when it comes to the second approach,  that of talking about your goals?

Personally, I think it’s usually a good idea to put it all out there — if you’re an ambitious person.

Why?

Because the motivation that comes from not wanting to lose face is powerful — especially in certain cultures, like Asia. Being held accountable by people can be a great motivator.

But here’s the thing. If you’re a hopeless loser people don’t want to hold you accountable.

Why?

Because it requires a bit of time and energy on their behalf — and they don’t want to invest that energy in keeping tabs on you unless they think it’s going to help you succeed.

People like supporting winners!

People like supporting daring  up-and-comers!

People like supporting ambitious underdogs!

It’s similar to what Cicero said:

We hate gladiators if they are keen to save their lives by any means, we favor them if they openly show contempt for it.

Meaning, that if you got the balls to talk about your –hopefully — big goals, while also showing that you are executing them, a lot of people will go out of their way to help you or cheer you on.

How to Decide what is Right for You

As with everything else in life there’s pros and cons to both approaches.

Both approaches are merely tools for harnessing motivation.

You’ll have to figure out what suits you best by experimenting with both approaches over time to see what yields the best results. Think for yourself and figure out how this applies to your unique situation.

Personally I’m more disposed toward the second approach — which you’ve probably noticed if you’ve read this blog for a while, or if you’ve read my eBook Breaking out of Homeostasis.

My philosophy is this:

I try to get as many repetitions as possible into my life — and speaking about my goals counts for another repetition — which speeds up the process of deliberately rewiring my brain the way I want it to work.

However…

I am currently experimenting with the first approach — that of not talking to other people about my immediate goals. I will stick to this for a few more months and then decide whether to go on doing that or not.

What’s your take on this question?

Do you talk about your goals or not?

Resources:

1.

My buddy Chris Bailey over at ayearofproductivity has put together a free book on New Years resolutions. The book contains, among other things, interviews with Charles Duhigg and David Allen. You can check out the book site and download it for free here.

2.

If you struggle with follow-through and have shitty/unambitious friends that don’t support you — here’s a site where you can find accountability buddies.

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Comments

  1. Kanye Smith says:

    Interesting analysis. I havent thought about this myself at all… I will ask a good friend to keep me accountable, thats what I took away from this post man ;)

  2. Wan Muhammad Zulfikri says:

    True Ludvig.

    What I see is the majority favours the talking about goals but there are some people who advocate not talking about it such as Derek Sivers in his TED Talks.

    Either way, it depends on the person. Maybe there are pyschological studies that supports either one of the ways but to simplify everything – just do it. If we can make ourself accountable to ourself with or without sharing our goals and stop relying on feelings of fulfilment before even accomplishing anything, that’s great as it is.

  3. There is another reason for not talking about your goals, which has been mentioned by VP. This reason is that many people may be negative and discouraging toward someone who aspires to things they themselves are unable to achieve or too afraid to attempt.

    Whether you should talk about your goals depends, I think, on who you talk about them to.

    • “Whether you should talk about your goals depends, I think, on who you talk about them to.”

      Abgrund, I agree with that.

      In my most recent article, I wrote that you should only talk about your goals positive, like-minded people. They can contribute with valuable feedback and motivate you to trust your plan when the going get’s tough.

    • Oskar & Abgrund,
      Good points form the both of you.

      Abgrund,

      “This reason is that many people may be negative and discouraging toward someone who aspires to things they themselves are unable to achieve or too afraid to attempt”

      —> I would say that this comes close to my explanation of mental congruency.
      People are used to you being who you have been before. They’re unconsciously lazy and would rather SEE YOU FAIL, and stay the same, than they would like to change their perception of you — and “suffer” the energy it takes to change the mental image they have of you.

    • I have to agree with Oskar.

  4. Alexander Skafte says:

    I’ve also thought a bit about this lately. I used to talk about my goals with other people more before, be they short term or long term. However, I’ve come to the (personal) conclusion that, most often, it leads nowhere. Why? Because I usually know a lot more about my goal than the other person does. Except for articulating my goal and thus making it more clear for myself, I usually don’t gain much from telling people about it because it often becomes a one-way communication.

    There are exceptions, of course; my close friends whom I know are intelligent enough to discuss more deeply with. But I don’t discuss goals with mere acquaintances any longer.

    ———-

    I’ve been inactive online lately, but I’m still reading your posts, Ludvig! The “How Successful People Read Online” really hit home for me, because I know I do A LOT of “internet multi-tabbing” or whatever you like to call it. Thank you for that post, it made me aware of the fact on a new level.
    Cheers, mate!

    • Alexander,
      Thanks for reading mate.

      Personally, I think the topic of “going public” with your goals is an interesting one. Gary Vaynerchuk stating over and over that he wants to own the sports’ team NY Jets is a good example:
      http://www.thedeal.com/video/inside-the-deal/why-gary-vaynerchuk-wants-to-b-1.php

      He’s a little bit like Cato the Elder (the guy who always ended his speeches by saying “furthermore i think that carthage must be destroyed”).

      I am considering doing the same thing :)

      • Alexander Skafte says:

        Alright, now THAT is inspirational… Time to set some seemingly impossible goals!

        Haha, no but seriously. I wanted to come up with a New Years resolution just for fun, so I said “By the end of 2014 I want to be able to deadlift 200 kg.” I weigh 73 kg now and lifting about 130 kg 1RM I think (haven’t tested 1RM though). I just hope I will not kill myself in the process :P

      • My goal for 2013 in deadlift was 210 kg, but I haven’t gone over 185. So I will keep it at 210 kg. But I completely blew through all my other goals at the gym for 2013.

        130 kg isn’t bad. Keep it up!

  5. Sebastian says:

    Whenever something is really important, I never talk about it. Even the most stupid comment can seed a storm of doubts and discouragement if you hear it only often enough. I keep strict radio silence to protect myself. If I need advice, I talk with someone who has already walked the walk.

  6. Great post Ludvig, as always :)

    Imho, people who are chronic procrastinators will benefit from neither approaches since they just don’t have the oomph to get started. I know a lot of people like this and while some of them like to talk about their goals, others are quiet, but at the end of the day, the result is the same. Nobody does shit.

    I believe that the ultimate motivator for people is pain. Most people will procrastinate on their personal development/goals, until the pain of homeostasis becomes too big to bear.

    I know pain was a big motivator for me, but once I started to gain momentum, everything got easier. I think that once you gain momentum, you have to be really picky to whom (if you’re going to tell this to somebody) you’re going tell your goal.

    Hope I made some sense :)

    Cheers,

    Dejan

    PS: A really interesting idea for an article would be, how to help people realize they’re stuck in a rut and how to break out of it :)

    • Thank you Dejan.

      “…chronic procrastinators will benefit from neither approaches since they just don’t have the oomph to get started”

      —> Yes. It’s a much more deeply rooted issue than just whether or not you’re a “talker” or not.

      Thanks for the post suggestion. I’ll keep that in mind for the future. It’s actually something that I’ve given some thought myself.

  7. Matteus Åkesson says:

    I think perhaps the skill in formulating your goals play a part, and the degree to which you are organized well enough to be able not just to focus, but to see what goals are reachable for you, given a certain timeframe. In other words, disorganization leads to inability to know how long things will take, and that leads to lots of missed goals – call it a faulty baseline. It may be that you need to share goals then – both for the support of added accountability, and because – let’s face it – your goals are going to be mismatched with your conditions most of the time, so you’ll fail no matter what, and might need to cheer yourself up with premature rewards just to stay afloat!

    Whereas if you are organized and possess a reliable baseline, sharing your goals may be mostly annoying – you probably don’t care much what anyone else thinks, anyway.

    I also think that the great achievers yhat don’t share their goals probably did share them at first.

    • Interesting insights, Matteus.

      “to see what goals are reachable for you, given a certain timeframe”

      —-> This one hit it home for me. Belief is important. If you don’t believe you can do it you will self-sabotage prematurely. This is why I am obsessed with daily goals:
      – Write 1000 words.
      – Practice activity X 1 hour
      – Contact 5 people
      Etc. These things are easily within my control and over time become habitualized.

      • Matteus Åkesson says:

        In other words, we develop our goal-setting skill a lot with practice and experience.

      • Matteus Åkesson says:

        What I mean is: defining goals isn’t trivial. Maybe it’s even almost half the work?

      • “What I mean is: defining goals isn’t trivial. Maybe it’s even almost half the work?”

        I think you are on to something here Matteus.

      • Matteus,
        Yes. I would say so. I think goal-setting is analogous to bodybuilding in the sense that you start small and increase the extent of what you can accomplish each time.

  8. I read a lot about this when I was writing guest posts about new years resolutions a few weeks ago. If you just let “people know” then you’re more likely to do nothing. But if you let close friends know, and then every week tell them what you’ve done to achieve it, then it makes you more likely to follow through. I probably need that kind of accountability right now, but optimally I would like to cultivate the self discipline to perform my best even on my own.

  9. Great post Ludvig,

    I lean to the latter. The whole idea of one getting the reward of goal completion by just talking about it, without having completed it, is too dependent on personality types I think. Whereas the idea of one being kept accountable by talking about goals applies to most people.

    Nobody feels good about not achieving what they set out for, and accountability has a huge impact on everybody, albeit some more than others, hence the popularity of sites like http://www.stickk.com.

    – Nicklas Kingo

  10. Hi Ludvig,

    I think both approaches are good and in my opinion the latter suits better for whatever external one`s goal is, applying to university, getting a new job etc.

    When developing internal figures, how you come along with people and how you`re pushing yourself to the limit with fasting, reading more or studying new things, I think those things will succeed far better if you keep them with yourself.

    It depends what kind of goal one has. both ways work, I can confirm that.

  11. Great question…Both have worked for me. Much depends on how certain (internally) you are of achieving the goal, and as many have mentioned – depends on who you talk to.
    I have found that if I have an unwavering, 100% confidence in achieving a goal (even if I don’t even know how to get there) somehow, it will work itself out. And talking to people – even saying that I know this is going to happen – I just don’t know how yet – works.
    On the other hand, if there is a sliver of doubt at all, and sharing that goal with ever more uncertain, unsupportive doubters – will only serve to reinforce the fact that the goal is far beyond reach.
    While it may be nice and good to share, find accountability etc etc etc, ultimately it all comes down to how much you believe in yourself.

    • Li-ling,
      Ah. Yes. Another insightful comment.

      People seem to have given this question a lot more thought than I had expected.

      “…sharing that goal with ever more uncertain, unsupportive doubters..”

      –> I think this has to be pretty rare. Most people unconsciously shy away from doing anything that will make them more uncertain, at least if they know of it in advance.

  12. Michal Stawicki says:

    I’ve read similar article on the EarlyToRise about a month ago. The conclusion was: you should share your goals only with selected people who will not try to discourage you.
    And I agree with that. I usually keep my goals very secret, especially the huge ones.

  13. For me it’s like this.

    I tell people my action-based goals but I make sure I execute them because I don’t want to be seen as a loser who talks a lot of crap but takes no action.

    That really motivates me because I see people like that all the time. I kinda see them as losers so I wouldn’t want people to see me as one too.

  14. Talk about my goals?
    I would never do that – if people knew that I was planning on taking over the world they would get the chance to stop me!

    Oops.

  15. In my experience it is always better to speak with action – not with words.

    And once you get ‘there’ – people will say:”boy he sure is lucky” but they only focus on the event and missed the process that you kept to yourself.

    This is what makes it so powerful

  16. Dan Black says:

    Great thoughts, I think an important factor is who you talk to about our goals. Some people have the potential to drag us down, into smaller levels of thinking, and even discourage us from having or taking action on our goals/dreams. While other people can encourage us and allow us to see that our goals are possible.

    It goes back to the people we associate with on a regular basis will greatly determine our future. I’m all about sharing my goals with the right type of people. Great post!

  17. Adrian Carballo says:

    A very interesting concept. Personally, I like to keep my goals to myself, and consciously meditate about them, without telling anyone. I think the feeling of premature accomplishment is very dangerous, and it’s better to keep distance. This mindset has helped me accomplished may things in my life while watching others talking about accomplishing those goals. Like the old saying says, you gotta ‘walk the walk before you talk the talk’.

    • Adrian, when you say “consciously meditate about them”, do you mean visualizing yourself doing the things and seeing yourself having accomplished it already?

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts Adrian.

  18. “If you talk about your goals/ideas/New Year’s resolution to other people you will feel good about yourself despite not having executed on it.”

    That’s what I heard and experienced as well.

    Reasons NOT to?

    Goals and plans always change. So… All I really say is… I’ll do something great but never say how or what it will be.

    Also, I love to surprise people.

    What’s more impressive?

    Telling everyone about your goals for months until you annoy them and then accomplishing them OR staying all silent and humble and out of nowhere accomplish something no one had it coming?

    • “Goals and plans always change”

      –> Well that’s the thing. I think a serious goal needs to be something awesome enough not tobe worth compromising on; something you’d WANT to consistently work towards daily.

      “What’s more impressive?”

      —> Probably the latter… But I think it’s more important to be pragmatic and accomplish something than it is to impress others. Sometimes you gotta do some embarrassing and awkward shit to get it done. (And I know you know this too!)

      • Hahahaha! Yea, that’s true

      • How about this? I also don’t tell people about my goals, cause people don’t want you to succeed ;)

        Seen Tyler Durden’s video where he’s like, not even your mother wants you to succeed cause she’s afraid she won’t call you back.

      • I think the “philosophical” question whether people want you to succeed or not is interesting because you can benefit from it either way you flip it, as long as you don’t have a negative mindset:

        1. — You believe that people don’t want you to succeed. Which generally seems to be the case among “normal people”.

        2. — But if you hang around bright and ambitious people the opposite is true.

        Ambitious people support each other and thrive on good emotions, whereas “normal”, less ambitious people with a “lower quality of consciousness” thrive on negative emotions and like to put others down to feel better about themselves temporarily.

        3. — You take the middle way of “unrealistically” deciding to believe that EVERYONE wants you to succeed and that the universe is conspiring to make you a great success and that everything that comes along carries with it something positive. But it’s up to you to dig up that positive thing and reframe the situation.

  19. Matteus Åkesson says:

    With my passion for synthesis I’m arriving at the following how-to process:

    First, you are disorganized and not good at setting or reaching goals. You start by trying to set some goals, then you talk to your friends about them. They will help you create better goals, but you will still fail at most of them for a variety of reasons. Luckily you get some premature gratification to carry you over the worst pain.

    Second, you get better at setting goals, and you begin to succeed in reaching them. You tell some of your friends in order to have some accountability and get even more feedback in order to become even more skilled at setting goals.

    Third, you start being really good at it and you tell only select friends or mentors about your goals in order to push the limit to the maximum and become a kickass goal-reacher.

    Fourth, you set one inspiring seemingly impossible goal and go public with it – putting your kickassiness to the true test!

    • Great synthesis Matteus. That makes sense actually — logically speaking.

      ” Luckily you get some premature gratification to carry you over the worst pain. ”

      —> Funny thing. To digress: I think that some people really need to stop sheltering themselves from that pain though. I got like 2-3 posts coming up on this eventually. Some day. About the process of deliberately going through discomfort in order to reach a critical mass in terms of emotional leverage — and get the internal motivation needed to just STFU & execute.

      • Matteus Åkesson says:

        “some people really need to stop sheltering themselves from that pain though”

        -> Yes, some. Though I think embracing the pain comes later in the game. Early on you can’t tell if the pain is the right pain, due to your disorganized and inexperienced state, and that will just make you stop. Which is worse than useless. For the record – I wrote “carry over” not “shelter” :) Cf. sports training.

  20. Here is my take on goals.

    So even when I was young, every summer was going to the “Summer of Mark!” I was going to transform myself into a stronger, better looking, smarter, guy with more friends than ever before. I was going to educate and work myself to become “that guy”

    Never happened. I just played video games all day long. ;p

    So what I’ve learned over the year is you have to focus not on your goals but the process for real results.

    So I start out with a destination (e.g. become healthier). It can be very generic.

    Then instead of wasting time on making a goal, I put a TON of time creating a process. In other words, I write down what I’m going to do EVERYDAY to make this happen. Then I just follow the process.

    Here is the trick on creating the process. Make them VERY VERY VERY easy from a physical and psychological point of view (at least from the start).

    Going back to my “get healthier” example. If I have “goto the gym everyday” on it, but I have to drive 30+ minus, thats a lot of “physical” distance. Instead I put “workout at home” and buy some basic stuff. On the “psychological” side, I try to make it where I don’t even have to think about it. I have an alarm go off on my phone, when it goes off I drop everything and workout. Its that simple.

    This way I don’t have to think about telling someone or not about my goals (destinations), cause it is so easy to follow at this point.

    Hope you like the ideas,
    Mark

    • Hey Mark,
      Great comment. I — as well as most other men of our generation — can identify with this:

      “I was going to transform myself into a stronger, better looking, smarter, guy with more friends than ever before. I was going to educate and work myself to become “that guy”

      Never happened. I just played video games all day long.”

      — Your process is smart. I have the same approach. Just get going and the rest will fix itself. Just trick the brain into taking the first step any way you can — and the body will adjust to the situation.

  21. Hi Ludvig,

    This is a brilliant post!

    I love telling other people about my goals (not all of them though) as it holds me accountable, as you mentioned in your post. I find this approach very useful with activities I find challenging. Telling others makes it public and I’m more likely to follow through.

    Thank you.

    • Thank you Hiten,

      Very interesting comments on this post. This just goes to show how individual this is.

      I’m also rather impressed by how much thought people seem to have given this question!

  22. Instapapered this guide, and can’t wait to jump in! Keep on cranking out the amazing content brother :)

  23. I’m a person who talks about my goals a lot, but it doesn’t always work for me. I just get very enthusiastic about my goals.

  24. The part of me which wants to be seen as consistent is strong.

    Which is why I’ve stopped telling people about my goals. In the past, I’ve set goals and then failed to accomplish them. I have a strong aversion to folks to talk out of their ass. I don’t want to be like them. Solution? Talk after I’ve accomplished.

    The one advantage to this approach is flexibility. I might set a goal, and then start doing research or reflection. At which point I might realize that this goal just isn’t meant for me.

  25. Great post

  26. Hi Ludvig,

    Found your blog from B&D. I like this post. I’d always heard that you have to talk about your goals publicly because then there’s a huge amount of social pressure on you to accomplish and follow through lest you end up looking like a moron in front of people (one of human beings greatest fears is beings greatest fears is losing status in a group). But this brings an interesting alternative point of view.

    I personally don’t need any form of motivation anymore. i still use some, like inspirational videos or fear, but generally i focus on three things every day: Getting richer, getting stronger and getting smarter. I find that almost every action i take leads me in some way towards those goals, because i have literally coded them into my value system. i don’t even need to THINK about it anymore, it’s habit and i find myself automatically rejecting people and situations that lead me away from these goals.

    Anyway. Thanks for this post and keep it up. I can tell you’re an intelligent guy and I’ll be reading more of your blog in the future.

    Best of Luck!

    • Hey G-Freedom,
      Great comment, I look forward to seeing what more you have to say in the future!

      “(one of human beings greatest fears is beings greatest fears is losing status in a group)”

      — Indeed. That’s what keeps most people from making any noise at all!

      ” i don’t even need to THINK about it anymore, it’s habit and i find myself automatically rejecting people and situations that lead me away from these goals.”

      — That’s awesome. I am in a similar situation, but it took a lot of selective focus to get there for me.

      I’ve got a couple of upcoming posts related to the things you’re talking about. More specifically about “crossing the threshold” of mental investment — when your brain starts to cater to you, instead of the other way around.

  27. This is a great. I always set and think about the goal first. Interesting analysis. I havent thought about this myself at all… I will ask a good friend to keep me accountable, thats what I took away from this post man. Again tell you you did a good and interesting analysis byddy ;)

  28. The problem is not with talking but the problem is with boasting about your goals. People usually keep track of your goals and strike even if you fail at single point critisizing you for not choosing the right thing.

  29. I hadnt thought about this before. But this is exactly what Gary Vaynerxhuk does when he says he “will own the Knicks”, he talks avout his goal and gets accountable

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